What happens when your ego becomes interference to your leadership? The sad part is because it is your ego you are blind to it... the only person that can see it is EVERYONE else! The question I ask is why does ego-centrism get in the way of well-meaning leadership? An egocentric person cannot completely empathize, i.e. "put himself in other peoples' shoes", and believes everyone sees what she/he sees (or that what he/she sees, in some way, exceeds what others see).
What is ego-less leadership?
I believe true leadership is truly egoless, as a matter of fact, my core belief says that true leadership is only based through a servant mentality. We 'get' what we want when we 'give' of what we want and need. I understand that may seem oxymornic but it does make sense (oxymoronic = oxymoron + stupidity). Let me say it this way, how much value does a fruit tree truly have? An ignorant man with large ego would take the fruit of his tree and sell it for what, a hundred dollars and feel rich? However, how is rich even defined but by the ignorant, that would try to actually define it by a monetary figure or time figure or whatever means of focal point, but it's all perspective, nothing more than a perception of value. The true leader would grab a few people that would be potential farmers teach them how to take the fruit of this tree and harvest not the tasty fruit but the ugly seeds within the fruit. They would skip the opportunity for the immediate vitamins, the succulent fruit, the tasty juice. They would take the seeds and learn how to germinate them into small seedlings then into an orchard.
Now the egoless leader sees the true value in a single tree. He sees that he can give of himself to train a few farmers. He understand the sacrifice of one season of his tree and training will yield several orchards.
“The best time to plant a tree was 20 years ago. The second best time is now.” – Chinese Proverb
The best time to build a leader is 20 years ago, the second best time is now. - My own twist.
Egocentric Interference will gain you a bushel of fruit and the value is short lived. An egoless leader however has learned the skill of scalability, replicability, and how to create a limitless potential.
The egocentric leader will stand on his box and use his bullhorn to sell his bushel of fruit. However I am not interested in coaching people to that approach. In my practice I strongly focus on helping people become wealthy through losing their ego while maintaining their passion, purpose, and principles. Please do not be ignorant enough to limit wealth to just money. The wealthiest people in life do not always have the largest bank account. They have time for their family, they have a heart of compassion, etc. Wealth's true measurement is time... not greenbacks.
Be a change agent, not a bullhorn, no one likes you Mr. Bullhorn Guy.
What are you doing to invest in yourself? Do not think that because of your leadership skills and ability to lead others you yourself do not need your own investment. Have you considered different methods. The far best method through empirical studies is discussed HERE
This is the graduation commencement address that Steve Jobs, founder of Apple, gave at Stanford in 2005. In this powerful speech, Steve recounts three personal stories from his personal life in which his main emphasis is, " the only way to do great work is to love what you do."
Personally, I found his speech to be powerful and motivational, so enjoy!
Below is the entire transcript of the speech...
Are you good at what you do? Chances are, unless you are completely new at what you are doing you have gotten good, perhaps you have even became an expert in your field. In one recent conversation with a client, he told me that after an average of 2 months most of his sales guys are 'great' at what they do and at that point are creating their own desired income. He says that it only takes a little time to learn their clients, their computer system and organizational expectations. Typically in my professional past experiences, I would say it was a 2-6 month time frame before I felt comfortable and in some cases good at what I was doing. Of course if there was previous experience in that industry then that 2-6 months could be mere weeks.
On one hand it is good…
Well it has been nearly 4-5 years since I worked at an architectural field and a good 2-3 years since I have done any architecture on the side. I recently picked up a consulting gig for a church in the West Valley to help them with their site development and building project. They are looking at doing a 5-7 year building project consisting of 5-7 buildings, outdoor sporting complex with football/soccer field, gymnasium, and perhaps some other great ideas. They want to do this in about three Phases all spaced 2-3 years apart.
I love working with clients that have great vision yet take a realistic approach. With my architectural background I have no problem designing the dreamsical unrealistic art but the reality is that designing things within budgets, constraints, taking into consideration other architectural design elements within the project's locale, area demographics, etc. can often paralyze clients. When sitting down at a blank piece of paper many people have a tough time conceptualizing their dreams... or facing the reality of what is doable.
I enjoy leadership that can be modest in their approach to the doable, respecting the fundamentals however allowing the 'fun' of creativity and exploration. Those leaders that understand this and 'get it' typically dream bigger, run faster, climb higher and have an unmatched aptitude for success. Their leadership is addictive and permeates those around them.
Are you dreaming today? Are you running faster than those that have held you back? Are you climbing higher? Do you have an unmatched aptitude for success? I hope the answer in the forefront of your mind is a resounding yes! If not, begin... NOW!
Linked are a couple renderings I decided to put up. Comment your thoughts, be advised these are very preliminary.
Leader: "Hey guys did you finish the way I wanted?"
Them: "Well, 'within reason'!"I get this from time to time. As a leader that is such a scary reaction phrase when assessing completion. As a worker/volunteer/intern who doesn't have a strong grasp of excellence, this creates a large gray area of unfulfilled duties, a sort of sick justification. The toughest project for a team leader is to produce the culture in which the hands have a degree or sense of self-responsibility, self-motivation. When they lack this it slowly forces the leader to micro-manage, which any good leader dreads and never wants to walk in that role, at least the good ones. There are some manager/leaders that thrive on the micro-management philosophies. Scary land.
'Within reason' could be defined as 'within the bounds of good sense or practicality'. However within bounds is still missing the mark. Later we can debunk the difference between perfection and excellence but for now lets tackle the issue of...
This guy named Jesse at Buckle introduced himself to me. We talked about professionalism in the market place and taking pride in our job. He told me how once he went to P.F. Changs
in Scottsdale and ordered food, a plate that he orders custom, half shrimp and half scallions, however this time it was horrible. He then ordered another plate and it was horrible too, two in a row.
He payed and left and went to the P.F. Changs in Tempe and ordered the same meal. He payed twice to get what he expected, in order to get the best that the restaurant had. He explained to them...
In one of my recent grad projects we had to identify several gaps within our organization. Once identified came the task of trying to figure out the root cause. After knowing the cause the next process was to lay out a plan on how to fix the initiatives. Then the final task of the project was to point out any resistance to the initiatives.
What is tough is not identifying the gaps. We are good at that. We are great at looking at the flaws of a system, item, or process, and sometimes we are even good at exploiting those gaps to help out our own cause. However most of the times we do not...
, a charismatic chemist, felt that the purpose of bureaucracy is to compensate for incompetence and lack of discipline. He also felt that problem largely goes away when you have the right people in the first place. George was the co-founder of Amgen
from back in 1980 who brought the company to $1 billion by 1996.
Jim Collins says in his book, Good to Great, "Everyone would like to be the best, but most organizations lack the discipline to figure out with egoless clarity what they can be the best at and the will to do whatever it takes to turn the potential into reality."
If you have heard me speak or heard my life story you have heard the words resonate from my lips...
Jeff, a disbarred lawyer, on a TV show called, Community
, signs up for a class at a community college that he heard was an easy ‘A’. When Professor Whitman tells the class to throw their textbooks away and simply "seize the day and live in the moment" to get an 'A', Jeff thinks he has hit the jackpot. Jeff encourages his study group to take a class that is supposed to be a breeze. This class has no tests, quizzes, papers, and appears to be no homework in the modern sense, except to ‘Carpe Diem’, Seize the day.
Professor Whitman catches on to Jeff’s carelessness and freewill desire for an ‘A’ and tells him he must ‘live life’ or face an ‘F’. Jeff begins doing all kinds of acts in front of Whitman to get caught living the moment, flying kites, dressing funny, etc. However Whitman calls him out each time. Professor Whitman finally tells him...
As I have eluded to in previous posts
as well as particular Twitters
I began my Masters this week in residency at Evangel University
, Springfield, MO. I am realizing the difference between the work load and knowledge level when I received my AA in Architectural Design & CAD as well as my BA in Pastoral Ministries to a Masters level education. That coupled with the experience of being a hybrid experience, (Hybrid means, I fly out twice a year for a week of classes, professor introductions, class introductions, etc.) then the rest is distance study at home makes this a very overwhelming jump start.
Though this still is insurmountable in my mind...